Thanksgiving - the Right Way
Last week I asked my 6-year-old what she was thankful for and she replied, “Thanksgiving is not until next week.” Huhhh? So I had to whip out the, “We should be thankful everyday” speech. That got me thinking about thanking people, which led me to what bugs me about saying thanks and contemplating how we can do it better.
Here are some ways to make a thank you more meaningful and memorable:
No Shame in a Name
Thank you to the organizers. Thanks to those who helped me. Thanks to (insert large group). Does that really make anyone feel special? Drop the blanket people thank you. Whenever possible, use names. Robert C. Lee was right when he said, “The sweetest sound to anyone’s ears is the sound of his own name.”
Be Specific and Sincere
Hey man, thanks for everything. EVERY thing? What things? Tell the man what you appreciate in particular – the extra time he spent on that project, the speedy service that she provided to the customer. Of course, be sincere in your appreciation. People can feel it!
Keep Emily Post Alive
Thank you cards are an endangered species. If you’re like me, you’ve wondered if some mailed gifts even made it to the recipient. It means so much and takes so little time to send a heartfelt thank you note. Go the e-mail route if you must, but phone calls and handwritten notes are always better and more appreciated. Keep a blank set of cards at your desk, and your address book handy.
The Eyes Have It
When you have the opportunity to thank someone in person, make sure to look at that person in the eye. Direct eye contact deepens the message of gratitude and feeling of sincerity.
When someone thanks you, a good response is My Pleasure, Happy to Help, or You’re Welcome. Consider the underlying message that a phrase like No Problem sends. Are you saying it could have been a problem? Normally helping someone is a problem? Am I a problem? It may convey a sentiment you didn’t intend.
So, Thank YOU!
Dear (your name) – I know how busy you are with work and family, and I really appreciate your taking the time to read this blog. If it makes you smile, I’d be grateful if you’d consider hitting the “share” button. Thanks in advance! It means so much to me. Happy Thanksgiving (your name), I appreciate you more than you know.